JUBRIL AKINRINMADE'S BLOG

                                                                               THE ATTRIBUTES OF GOD(CONTD )    3.     INTELLIGENCE There is an African adage that says 'a woman is like an object in a tied bag . A man cannot know what it contains until he takes it home and opens it. In making a choice of a lifemate, there is the need to apply your God given intelligence. This goes beyond asking questions or observing characters it involves getting to remove the veil of pretence from your partner and knowing the true nature of the person. A brother met a sister in a church and asked for her hands in marriage. After the prerequisite counselling and courtship, they were joined together in 'holy ' matrimony. It was after the death of their third child that the husba...

                          ENTERING INTO HIS WILL  2. POWER :    The power to choose right is an essential ingredient in choosing a lifemate. Just as God has the will power to create whatever He desires, so also you have the power to choose anyone you like.  Your ability to use that will power correctly is what determines if you will have a peaceful union and home or a turbulent matrimony. This is not psychic or an out of the world kind of power, it is just that ability to get the right man or woman.  Everyone with the intention of getting married should have a picture of the kind of partner he/she wants. This has nothing to do with race, class or creed. It is more about personality.  You have the power to call into your life the person you want, it is just that most people do not know this.  This issue of power brings to my mind the story of a travelling evangelist who got to a provin...

                                  ENTERING INTO HIS WILL  To enter into a marriage relationship with your partner, you must have the understanding that you are operating within the ambit of the will of God. You must enter into His will before choosing a lifemate otherwise you will choose in error. To enter into His will therefore, you must have the attributes of God. These attributes are; 1. Foreknowledge 2. Power 3. Intelligence 4. Accuracy 1. FOREKNOWLEDGE: In choosing a lifemate, you need to watch, ask questions observe characters and consult counsellors with insight into both marital and spiritual issues ( not ritualists). You should do everything possible to confirm if your vision about your union with the person you are choosing will bring peace. You must know what you want and not what your friends, relatives or Pastor wants. As an express image of God, you must do things His way...

                  CHECKLIST #3                  DO I TRULY LOVE HIM/HER? Love, lust, infatuation are experiences with very fragile line of demarcation. A woman who is driven by infatuation may become a victim of a man who is driven by lust. The union between this two will crash and the pieces will be so difficult to put together. Any marriage contracted out of genuine love between the two parties will end well. The question to ask is; am I marrying him because of his looks or her bea uty? If he or she becomes 70 years old with bald head or falling teeth, will I still love him/her? In case of severe sickness, can I clear his waste without pinching my nose or twisting my mouth? Supposed there are no children, will he /she still be the apple of my eyes? There is the story of this lady who was diagnosed with cancer a few months after her wedding. She was made to go through chemotherapy treatment and a...

CHECKLIST BEFORE GETTING MARRIED                                                           CHECKLIST  #2                             AM I TRYING TO CHANGE A STATUS? What is your motive for accepting to marry that person? Is it because of reproach? Is it because of what people are saying? Are you tired of having to tell your parents 'very soon ' whenever they ask when you are bringing home your fiancee  Some 'nosy' neighbours are already asking you about your children even though they know you were never pregnant  Or as some may say 'so that my time will not pass me by '. Are you entering into marriage because everyone within your age grade is already married or settled or even your younger siblings are married with children? You don't want to be left out. Using...