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CHECKLIST BEFORE GETTING MARRIED 




                   



                                   CHECKLIST  #2


                           AM I TRYING TO CHANGE A STATUS?


What is your motive for accepting to marry that person?

Is it because of reproach?

Is it because of what people are saying?

Are you tired of having to tell your parents 'very soon ' whenever they ask when you are bringing home your fiancee 

Some 'nosy' neighbours are already asking you about your children even though they know you were never pregnant 

Or as some may say 'so that my time will not pass me by '.

Are you entering into marriage because everyone within your age grade is already married or settled or even your younger siblings are married with children? You don't want to be left out. Using the street parlance, 'you no wan carry last'. 

If you go into a relationship or mortgage your future and happiness to change a status or please people, you will end up living to manage your marriage or asking for a divorce.

Archbishop (Papa) Duncan Williams said at a youth retreat in Accra, Ghana that his marriage to his first wife ended in divorce because he married too early. He stated how he was made to marry at the age of 24 because , according to his advisers he needed to do that to avoid the temptation to sin. He 'coped' for 26 years before the union eventually collapsed. He was not willing to stay single, but, according to him, he ended up being single (through divorce)

No matter what, take the step of marriage when you are ready ;physically, mentally, spiritually and financially.

Marriage is for matured people, people who can run their lives. No wonder the scripture says "and for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife and they twain shall be one flesh (Genesis 2 vs 24). 

Marriage is therefore not for kids but matured minds. Do not be rushed into it.


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