JUBRIL AKINRINMADE'S BLOG

          BEFORE GETTING MARRIED     MATURITY BEFORE GETTING MARRIED   It is a known fact that maturity is key in marriage. Marriage, whichever way or place it is consummated is  not for kids. A successful marriage can only be built by two matured people who are willing to  - Make sacrifices in whichever way it is demanded  - Forgive as many times as offences come  - Overlook faults as if they never occurred  Unfortunately, maturity does not always come with age and for most people, it has to be consciously learnt and practiced.  If you want to make your marriage work, you must start making efforts before  the wedding date  is fixed to “wake up and grow up “. You must be determined to grow as an individual and develop your minds, intellect and emotions to the maximum level that can ensure peaceful co-habitation.  Even though the following list is not inclusive, to have a joyous marriage, individua...

                                                                               THE ATTRIBUTES OF GOD(CONTD )    3.     INTELLIGENCE There is an African adage that says 'a woman is like an object in a tied bag . A man cannot know what it contains until he takes it home and opens it. In making a choice of a lifemate, there is the need to apply your God given intelligence. This goes beyond asking questions or observing characters it involves getting to remove the veil of pretence from your partner and knowing the true nature of the person. A brother met a sister in a church and asked for her hands in marriage. After the prerequisite counselling and courtship, they were joined together in 'holy ' matrimony. It was after the death of their third child that the husba...

                          ENTERING INTO HIS WILL  2. POWER :    The power to choose right is an essential ingredient in choosing a lifemate. Just as God has the will power to create whatever He desires, so also you have the power to choose anyone you like.  Your ability to use that will power correctly is what determines if you will have a peaceful union and home or a turbulent matrimony. This is not psychic or an out of the world kind of power, it is just that ability to get the right man or woman.  Everyone with the intention of getting married should have a picture of the kind of partner he/she wants. This has nothing to do with race, class or creed. It is more about personality.  You have the power to call into your life the person you want, it is just that most people do not know this.  This issue of power brings to my mind the story of a travelling evangelist who got to a provin...

                                  ENTERING INTO HIS WILL  To enter into a marriage relationship with your partner, you must have the understanding that you are operating within the ambit of the will of God. You must enter into His will before choosing a lifemate otherwise you will choose in error. To enter into His will therefore, you must have the attributes of God. These attributes are; 1. Foreknowledge 2. Power 3. Intelligence 4. Accuracy 1. FOREKNOWLEDGE: In choosing a lifemate, you need to watch, ask questions observe characters and consult counsellors with insight into both marital and spiritual issues ( not ritualists). You should do everything possible to confirm if your vision about your union with the person you are choosing will bring peace. You must know what you want and not what your friends, relatives or Pastor wants. As an express image of God, you must do things His way...

                  CHECKLIST #3                  DO I TRULY LOVE HIM/HER? Love, lust, infatuation are experiences with very fragile line of demarcation. A woman who is driven by infatuation may become a victim of a man who is driven by lust. The union between this two will crash and the pieces will be so difficult to put together. Any marriage contracted out of genuine love between the two parties will end well. The question to ask is; am I marrying him because of his looks or her bea uty? If he or she becomes 70 years old with bald head or falling teeth, will I still love him/her? In case of severe sickness, can I clear his waste without pinching my nose or twisting my mouth? Supposed there are no children, will he /she still be the apple of my eyes? There is the story of this lady who was diagnosed with cancer a few months after her wedding. She was made to go through chemotherapy treatment and a...

CHECKLIST BEFORE GETTING MARRIED                                                           CHECKLIST  #2                             AM I TRYING TO CHANGE A STATUS? What is your motive for accepting to marry that person? Is it because of reproach? Is it because of what people are saying? Are you tired of having to tell your parents 'very soon ' whenever they ask when you are bringing home your fiancee  Some 'nosy' neighbours are already asking you about your children even though they know you were never pregnant  Or as some may say 'so that my time will not pass me by '. Are you entering into marriage because everyone within your age grade is already married or settled or even your younger siblings are married with children? You don't want to be left out. Using...

HOW TO MAKE YOUR WIFE RESPECT AND SUBMIT TO YOU FOR LIFE! Making a woman do your wish, honour you, adore you, celebrate you, respect you and submit to you for life is not difficult at all.No woman on earth is difficult, except you married the devil’s own daughter whose conscience is practically dead and buried!As long as she is a woman born in the image of God, total respect, honour and submission to you comes easy and cheap if you do the following: 1. TAKE YOUR FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY SERIOUS: Wives naturally submit to husbands who are responsible and do not wait for landlord to scream at the top of his lungs before paying rent, neither does he wait to for the children to be sent out of school before paying their school fees.If you want your wife to genuinely respect you from the bottom of her heart, you must take your financial life serious. Pay your bills on time, provide adequate money for food, clothing and shelter.Your wife can assist you but it is not her responsibility to...

SINGLE AND SEARCHING   5 reasons why you are still single You could be single by choice. However if you are not this kind that choose to be single, then there could be other reasons why you haven’t found a partner to be with yet. Here are 5 of these reasons 1. You are too defensive of yourself You have been hurt before and so you think anyone else would do the same to you. You are wrong. Not every person will hurt you. Being too defensive could be a reason why you are still single. 2. You are too picky You are too choosy such that among all the 10 possible mates you have come across, you didn’t find one you can keep. Being picky and judgemental will see you stay single longer. 3. You don’t expose yourself to new people You don’t go out there to meet and see new people. Restricting yourself to your circle will not do you any good as far as finding a woman is concerned. Get out there and meet people, you could find your match in the process. 4. You’re  desperate...