CHECKLISTS BEFORE GETTING MARRIED
In continuation of our discourse on choosing a lifemate,we shall be looking at the checklists.
CHECKLIST #1
AM I TRULY GOD -LED?
If we all believed that there is a spirit within us that links everyone with the Supreme being (God), then the first question to ask is if the inner witness of the spirit of God is leading you into the union or you are being rushed into that union by external or superficial influences beyond your control.
In some parts of Africa, we have heard of marriages that are contracted by parents even before a child was born. It was even reported recently about a community called Obanliku in Cross Rivers State in the Southern part of Nigeria where young girls are married off as payments for debts owed or loan procured by their parents (they are called "money women" and the marriage is "money marriage').This practice is sadly carried out without the consent of the girls. They are sold out to clear debts owed by the family or even debts owed before their birth. The " money"wife" sadly does not benefit from the money marriage. While her parents and relatives share money and other gifts received from the groom (some who are old enough to be her grandfather),she is left alone to struggle and find a means of survival. Part of her duties in the marriage is to provide financial support to the groom's children born by his legally married wives. She is expected to do everything to make the husband happy because she had been sold out....... in this age and time.
Two incidents of non - consensual marriage that comes to mind is that of 14 - year old Wasila Tasi'u who was married to a 35 year old man and 13 - year old Sadiya Umar who was married to an older man called Umar Sani. These two teenage brides ended up poisoning their 'husbands' because they were not ready to be so 'dispatched' into matrimony. They simply did not have the inner conviction that they belonged in those homes so to set themselves free, they had to poison the men.... criminal you might say but by the time you find yourself in a forced or unpleasant marriage, you might think otherwise.
Before walking down the aisle therefore, are you convinced that you are doing the right thing? Do you have the leading of God that the man/woman is the perfect piece to complete your emotional cum spiritual jigsaw?
Marriage contracted without seeking divine direction and convictions often end up in breakups, heartbreak and disappointment. So if you are convinced of being God - led,......you are on your way to a blissful matrimony!
Checklist # 2 comes up in our next post . Subscribe to this blog on myjba.blogspot.com
In continuation of our discourse on choosing a lifemate,we shall be looking at the checklists.
CHECKLIST #1
AM I TRULY GOD -LED?
If we all believed that there is a spirit within us that links everyone with the Supreme being (God), then the first question to ask is if the inner witness of the spirit of God is leading you into the union or you are being rushed into that union by external or superficial influences beyond your control.
In some parts of Africa, we have heard of marriages that are contracted by parents even before a child was born. It was even reported recently about a community called Obanliku in Cross Rivers State in the Southern part of Nigeria where young girls are married off as payments for debts owed or loan procured by their parents (they are called "money women" and the marriage is "money marriage').This practice is sadly carried out without the consent of the girls. They are sold out to clear debts owed by the family or even debts owed before their birth. The " money"wife" sadly does not benefit from the money marriage. While her parents and relatives share money and other gifts received from the groom (some who are old enough to be her grandfather),she is left alone to struggle and find a means of survival. Part of her duties in the marriage is to provide financial support to the groom's children born by his legally married wives. She is expected to do everything to make the husband happy because she had been sold out....... in this age and time.
Two incidents of non - consensual marriage that comes to mind is that of 14 - year old Wasila Tasi'u who was married to a 35 year old man and 13 - year old Sadiya Umar who was married to an older man called Umar Sani. These two teenage brides ended up poisoning their 'husbands' because they were not ready to be so 'dispatched' into matrimony. They simply did not have the inner conviction that they belonged in those homes so to set themselves free, they had to poison the men.... criminal you might say but by the time you find yourself in a forced or unpleasant marriage, you might think otherwise.
Before walking down the aisle therefore, are you convinced that you are doing the right thing? Do you have the leading of God that the man/woman is the perfect piece to complete your emotional cum spiritual jigsaw?
Marriage contracted without seeking divine direction and convictions often end up in breakups, heartbreak and disappointment. So if you are convinced of being God - led,......you are on your way to a blissful matrimony!
Checklist # 2 comes up in our next post . Subscribe to this blog on myjba.blogspot.com
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