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MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE
Marriage.... an institution desired by the singles, a bond that delights the happily married and a nightmare, derided by the disappointed and the heartbroken....
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, "marriage is the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual or contractual relationship recognized by law". It goes further by including the rather contentious definition that has to do with the "union between two persons of the same sex". In line with the aim of this discourse, we shall consider marriage to be the 'union between two souls'.
- it goes beyond the one day celebratory event called wedding
- it has a longer duration (till death do us part.)
- it is more demanding.
- it is sweet and glamorous (if built on love and understanding)
- it should be heavenly directed(not product of self will or lust).

       CHOOSING A LIFE MATE
Decision on getting married, who to marry and when to marry should not be based on just the feelings of the heart. It is not about age or social status, but fundamentally, it should be about readiness to face the challenges that come with the glamour of building a home and the unpleasant traits of your partner.
The journey into a fruitful and long lasting marriage therefore should start with choosing a lifemate.

 CHECKLIST BEFORE CHOOSING A LIFEMATE
The big question that must occupy the mind of anyone who intend to enter into the hallowed chamber of marriage is - if I must marry, what should I do?
To answer this question, you need to go through the following checklist
√   Am I truly God - led?
√  Am I trying to change a status?
√  Do I truly love him/her?
√  In case of severe ailment, can I clear his/her wastes without pinching my nose and twisting my mouth?
√  Suppose there are no children, will he/she still be the apple of my eyes?


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